Pros and Cons of a “First Look” on the Wedding Day
This is one of the conversations I have regularly with clients: whether or not to do a first look before the ceremony. So, here’s what I tell them:
Pros of doing a first look:
- If you’re an introvert, this gives you a chance to touch and look at your husband/wife before there’s a bunch of people staring at you.
- You can do private vows if you want.
- You can do family photos before the ceremony and get them out of the way.
Cons of doing a first look:
- You don’t get the first look of the bride coming down the aisle.
- You will have to finish hair/makeup earlier to account for extra time pre-ceremony.
Isn’t it tradition not to see the bride until the ceremony?
Actually, a Jewish wedding planner pointed out to me once that it’s actually an older tradition to HAVE a first look. It dates back to when Jacob was fooled into marrying the wrong sister. The “Bedeken” is where the groom takes a first look at his bride and they give their consent for marriage, then he pulls the veil over her face.
Personal opinion: as an introverted person, I love giving brides and grooms a chance to see each other, breath, and relax before all the craziness of the wedding starts. I like watching them connect with each other, remind themselves why they are doing this, and just have some alone time before committing their lives to each other. Ultimately, the choice and experience is in your hands, though! Nobody is going to hell for having a first look (or not having one). You’ll be fine no matter what you choose. Enjoy the day. 🙂
